Memorial

While I worry about my departed loved ones, actually, they are worrying about me.

Among the countless English words formed from the 26 letters of the alphabet, the word ‘memorial’ possesses a power that resonates deeply within people’s hearts and bodies. Since ancient times, it is believed that flowers were laid at the resting places of the deceased. This act embodies a profound sense of sorrow, separation, and intense emotions for the departed loved one. These feelings are universal, shared across all differences, including race, skin color, identity, and other distinctions. It reminds me of a saying I once heard: “When we die, someone who loves us will miss us.” This sentiment captures the essence of a memorial.

A memorial provides an opportunity for us to come together and to show our respect for our departed loved ones. In the Hongwanji tradition, there is an emphasis on the living remembering the deceased, which in turn prompts us to reflect on our own lives, our way of living, and our ultimate destiny. Our loved ones inspire us to ponder these profound questions. Some may argue that memorials are for the deceased, not for us, but this is only partially true. Consider if you were in a critical condition with no guarantee of a tomorrow; our concerns would extend beyond ourselves to those we leave behind. Will they be alright after I’m gone? We yearn to be present for their graduations, weddings, and other significant moments. If we could, we would want to ease their pain and sorrow over our passing. This desire persists even after death. Our departed loved ones harbored the same wishes for us. We are invited to hear their messages.

The Wisdom and Compassion of Amida Buddha are timeless, extending across the past, present, and future. Amida Buddha’s Vow promises to embrace all beings in their current lives and ensure ultimate bliss as they transition to Buddhahood in the Pure Land upon death. Those who are in the embrace of the Amida’s vow receive profound Wisdom that allows them to see the world as it truly is. Our departed loved ones, as Buddhas endowed with wisdom, act compassionately to aid those who grieve their passing and guide us in various ways. Memorial services provide a connection to Amida Buddha’s teachings. While we may think of our departed loved ones sporadically or daily, it’s vital to dedicate time in a temple or with a minister, engaging in chanting, offering incense, and listening to Namo Amida Butsu. In realizing that we gather to remember them, we understand that they, too, think of us, worry for us, protect, and guide us. This realization deepens our connection, prompting us to look not only outward but also inward, reflecting on our lives. How wondrous and comforting is Amida Buddha’s Vow, for it assures us that our beloved departed think of us always.

In Amida’s embrace, we are together, right here, right now.

You may schedule this memorial service on the memorial day listed, or either before or after the day whichever is most convenient. Please contact Puna Hongwanji at (808) 966-9981 or email at mpunahongwanji@twc.com

Zoom online service is also available.